Father by Mail

Growing up without a father was never really on my mind much. The only time I would think of him is the random yearly phone calls I would get. I wasn’t angry or sad that he wasn’t in my life but the one impression he did leave on me was the art he would occasionally send. I thought it was so cool how he painted or even how he drew fish by making hundreds of little dots. The older I got the more he just became a stranger to me on the phone, reasons were the lack of phone calls and the major fact that I’ve never even seen him. One year on my birthday, he sent me a long board from Hawaii I was raised in Utah and never tried long boarding before. So, my friends and I used it to ride down the steep hill we lived on while sitting on our butts. It was great fun until that thing got launched into the gutter to never be seen again… Thanks again Dad.

Fathers that are absent in their child’s life can still make a great and positive impact on them. For the longest time I wanted to be an artist just because this random stranger called “Dad” was occasionally sending me drawings in the mail. To this day I like to occasionally longboard because it helps reduce a lot of stress for me. Presumably from the one and only time he sent me a gift that wasn’t his artwork. Although it was short lived and now resides in the gutter system of Ogden Utah, that memory still sticks with me today. I’m no scholar but, I think there’s always something positive to take from a shitty situation.

So, for anyone out there that may own or look at something that reminds them of the one or only time your father did something for you. Let that bring clarity and bliss knowing you can be better than that when your time comes to be there for your child.

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A Fatherless Journey

Raised by my mother and grandmother, I never really have a male father figure to ask life’s important questions, such as “How do you throw a football? Do I need lighting fluid to start a campfire? Are you supposed to shave your balls?” Ok, maybe that last one you don’t ask your dad that question, but you get the point. I had an awesome mother and grandmother, but they weren’t exactly Tomboys so I couldn’t go to them with those questions. Luckily for me the internet was around in my early teens and I could search for answers like how to tie a tie, what to say to girls and if I eat too many sesame seeds will it grow in my belly?? Don’t get me wrong you can go to mothers or grandmothers with these questions and get solid advice but sometimes its nice as a young impressionable male to get advice from a man who has seen it all.

I wanted to create a place where you could find answers to those questions without a certain agenda, because the internet is a wonderful place but sometimes all they want is your cookies and money. Fatherless Figures is a place where people can just get some solid advice, maybe some bad like trying this new ghost pepper hot sauce and maybe some good… But overall a positive experience where people can learn and grow as individuals. No one is here to sell you their book on the “Top 10 Best Ways to Pick Up Chicks!” or “By Doing This One Trick You Can Increase Your Credit Score Instantly!” Just a group of individuals sharing their life stories and experiences. In the end, if this website could have helped 1 fatherless individual to Not buy that 2009 Ford Mustang with 35% interest, I’ll be happy.

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